Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage. -Maya Angelou
It’s been almost seven months since I’ve started my blogging journey and it has been such a beautiful therapist for me. To express myself as an outlet is freeing, relaxing, and I can go back and review my growth. So I highly recommend for anyone if they haven’t already, to find an outlet to creatively expressing yourself.
This week I wanted to talk about boldness. An excerpt from one of the self-help gurus that I follow, Brendan Burchard, says:
Where you are in life right now is a direct reflection of how bold you’ve been up to this point. How boldly do you share yourself, your ideas, your needs and dreams with the world? How courageous have you been to fight after you’ve fallen down. Demand of yourself to be more bold and you’ll feel more confident and influential over time.
This got me judging my boldness. Everything accumulated up until this point is a result of my boldness. Lets start with things that I am grateful for:
- For moving from Maui to Honolulu to be on my own
- To having a nice place in the Heart of Waikiki
- To having a good respectable and sustainable job.
- For having the courage to start this blog and YouTube!
So I guess you could say my boldness is ok. But to be honest, there is some part of me that knows that in order to make the rest of my 20’s really meaningful, I have to be bolder. For as Maya Angelou says. Every virtue cannot be practiced consistently, without it.
The bullet points listed above — with the exception of the last one –is what you get when you work hard. But to me, that is not necessarily being bolder. The boldest thing that I’ve done so far is the last one, probably why it has the word ‘courage’ in there.
What Makes You Bold?
When I think of taking risks, for my personal fulfillment, I think of vulnerability. Vulnerability in the sense that yes, people will eventually get to know me and me for me. But more importantly, at this point in time, is vulnerability in expressing myself.
One of my dear friends started a YouTube channel six months ago, and although her channel isn’t up anymore. Her first few videos went viral. Why did they end up going viral? Because she talked about things that pissed off alot of people. But were true to her.
Her nature to be unapologetic about her opinions, is something that I admire. The willingness to say, “I don’t like this” instead of remaining silent for the respect of others, is what got the crowd looking.
Now that is totally not me, but I do understand how I can take this finding and mold it into my own:
1. By Sticking 100% To Decisions
I’ll blame it on my zodiac sign, Gemini, where I can’t really choose a side. Whenever I share opinions, it’s with the respect of the other, to keep all things neutral. To avoid conflict. This however, can come at the expense of my authenticity to what I’m really trying to say. Communication is key, and I believe that it is better to say it with the intention of getting my perspective across than trying to not start an argument. So I promise to say whatever I have to say, in a knowledgeable manner that is true to my beliefs, without disrespecting the other, and without trying to keep things neutral. So that people can get the true reflections of my points.
2. Letting Go Of Flaws, And Embracing Them
Watching alot of YouTube and following bloggers has got me noticing that when they express themselves on camera, they don’t delete their mistakes or poor angles. This is what makes the video so real and inviting. In my first two videos, I did alot of editing because I didn’t like certain angles of my face. This affected the communication of the words. My main point shouldn’t focus on the looks, unfortunately, but on the content itself.
3. Trying Out Ridiculous Ideas First, Before Asking Opinions
Whenever ideas pop into my head, the first thing I do is tell a friend about it. Then usually after that, I am persuaded out of it, mainly out of fear that it sucked to begin with. Call it a self-fulfilling prophecy. But now in my hopes of being bolder, I’m gonna try out my ridiculous ideas first, then share it after. What I see is that people can’t really vision it unless they can see it for themselves. For the most part, only you can see the vision.
4. Digging Deeper
There are some things in my life that I am not ready to share with you folks yet. But that won’t stop me from challenging myself with what I can offer. I want you folks to get to know me as an artist. Judge me for the work and my ability to create. When I say bold, there’s alot locked in this mind, and I can only get there through vulnerability. The best solution to that is to push myself one step at a time into uncomfortable territory.
5. Stepping Into Uncertainty
I received a tweet notification from someone making a rise in the YouTube community. His tweet said this:
So I will send out a big apology to anyone that follows me on YouTube. I haven’t been posting consistently/even at all. The reason is simple, I get scared the more and more I expose myself. But this very tweet hit me, just when I needed it.
Writing and talking to others makes me happy. But when I see the response that happens to others in this community it scares me. I’m judging the uncertainty of what the future may hold for me based on what I see currently.Yet part of being bold, is doing what makes you happy even though you may not know what can happen.
6. Get Rid Of The Bare Minimum
I used to go to work doing only what was required of me then go home. It’s funny thinking about it, but whenever something stepped out of my responsibility and title, I just wouldn’t do it. But I’m here to say, take on the responsibility and contribute.
There was always that lingering question “why do it if Im not gonna get the right pay for it?” and that is where the second part comes in. If you know that you’ve worked so hard, you shouldn’t be afraid to negotiate pay.
Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Lastly, I’ll be honest. I am still insecure with my body, even though I have the makings of what society would deem beautiful. My goal is to do more modeling, not getting camera shy and just expressing myself.
Being Bolder combined with working harder, is what will make the rest of 20’s meaningful.
Don’t just work hard, work bolder.
I hope this gave you some insights to help you raise your boldness.
I’ll see you next time my beautiful loves,