What up Beautiful People!
If you are new welcome, and if you are returning welcome back! I’ve been speculating alot about starting a YouTube channel and if you’ve been reading my posts, I have always admired people that are able to creatively put themselves out there. Whether their ideas flop or not, they’re not afraid to consistently create and express themselves. YouTube to me is more interactive, as you can see how I talk, how I move, you get to know me more in person as opposed to behind the words. So I have a slightly higher admiration for YouTubers.
Something I am learning from blogging and consistently writing and giving content is the barriers that prevent people from taking steps to go for the things that they want. The big one, when publishing our work and art, is PERFECTION. When I first started blogging, I would constantly delete and write until I was back to square one with a blank page. In fact I blog about that particular story here.
What I learned from this particular event was that the people who put themselves out there just do the best they can with whatever content they’re producing. They don’t strive for perfection, they strive for excellence, which is a big difference. What it essentially tackles are the gremlins of self-doubt, self-judgement, and self-worthiness which is one of the underlying reasons behind perfection. This reminded me of a book that had begun the journey to where I am today.
The Gift of Imperfection
If you read the title of this post or have actually read the book, you’ll see what a beautiful gift being imperfect is. The whole title of this book is:
and one of my must reads for 2017. When I had gone through decluttering out my apartment, this book had sparked joy for me. For one, it is the basis of my whole platform with Ellaklo and summed up in RuPaul’s favorite quote:
If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else
which is so true. Brene Brown, the author of this book is a researcher/storyteller. She’s also hella funny. Through her research in how whole-hearted people live, she lays it out on what separates these people that have really fulfilled lives from those that are still searching.
There are simple guideposts that are quite eye opening, such as how whole-hearted people make time for playing and creating. Basically things we did as kids.
She also does an art journaling e-course, which I took, that serves as a guide in learning to embrace this imperfection. I haven’t ever art journaled before and I thought it stuck so well to add an e-course to this book. A little snippet below from my journal.
A few takeaways from the book
- The only variable that separates people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and folks who struggle for it. Is that those who have a strong sense of love and belonging, believe their worthy of it. That’s all.
- Loving yourself is not a future event. It’s not after you lose 20 pounds then you’ll love yourself, it’s a here and now event.
- Loving yourself is knowing that you are beautiful because of your flaws and imperfections, not despite them.
- Loving yourself is being self-compassionate. At the end of the day, no matter how hard you worked and failed, or how bad your day was, that You Are Enough.
- Loving yourself is a consistent practice. It’s not a magical event that when you say I am worthy that everything is great. No. It’s a push and pull, that follows you through the rest of your life. There are practices that those who are whole-hearted do. I’ve wrote about some of them here.
- Authenticity, is knowing when to say No.
- Everyone is born to create, there is no such thing as a creative and non-creative person. Whole-hearted people make time for creativity.
I give alot of credit to social media for having stumbled upon the practices of Brene Brown. It has ultimately changed the course of my life, which is why I highly recommend it. I bought this book a few years back.
I’ll link a bit of Brene Brown’s work that started my journey of self-love below. I’ve also put a link at the bottom where you can purchase the book too. Keep in mind that I may get a commission if you purchase. If so, Thank you much for your support!
All in all, the moment that I embraced myself in all its glory, good and bad was the moment I stopped placing my self-worth in the hands of others. This had given me true clarity in my goals for beauty and fashion which is just to become a better me at it then I was yesterday.
The guide posts are simple to understand, and really things that will follow you through the rest of your life.
I’ll say it again, it’s a must-read.
Now it’s your turn. What if you simply devoted this year to loving yourself more? For me it has been a life-changer. Let me know in the comments of one thing you love about yourself. If you want to hear more feel-goods and style tips I would love it if you would subscribe.
Till then i’ll see you folks next week!
FTC: This is not sponsored. Just my own personal insights.